DIY - Manage Anxiety - Fear - Worry - Overwhelmed - Enjoy Emotional Self-Control New Positive Mind Management Skills and Tools
Welcome to: DIY - Overcome Pornography - Do It Yourself - Online Self-Hypnosis & Hypnotherapy (pondering & meditation)
You will FREE YOURSELF! Because This REALLY WORKS!
These Positive Mind Management Training's are taught from Christian - LDS Perspectives!
In these training's you will learn how to manage your mind with new simple and powerful mental and spiritual skills and tools that will enable you to overcome the enticements and seductive powers of pornography and self-abuse. You will learn to keep yourself FREE and CLEAN for the rest of your life as you utilize these new mind management trainings. Happiness is being Free, Powerful, and CLEAN!
W. Dennis Parker the Owner of Positive Mind Management Services and Certified Hypnotherapy Training School, knows what it takes to raise a family. He and his wife Susie have 11 children and with their spouses, plus 40 grandchildren, he has 63 people in his immediate family. He has a goal to create a ripple of good in his life by helping others be FREE and HAPPY as they utilize hypnosis and hypnotherapy or pondering and meditation skills and tools. He wishes to turn his goal of doing good into a tsunami of righteousness by making these new mental and spiritual skills and tools available to everyone.
You will discover that you have more abilities and personal God given capacities and powers than you are currently aware of to conquer your problems. You will discover that you are stronger than you know, but you will know it by going through these training's. This offering is help you accomplish your goals and make you self-reliant, at less cost, and you will incrementally improve with each lesson as you do them.
After these training's should you still need some additional assistance with your deepest emotional or out of control issues, you can come in, or do a couple of hypnotherapy sessions online world wide, as we do so everyday. So, by taking these training's first you will save time and money and prepare yourself for your additional sessions, if still required. This is the right path forward to overcoming emotional issues, and pornography!
See what different people have to say about these training's. Hear explanations from Dennis of how and why these new mental and spiritual skills and tools work and what is different about them, by watching a few free videos below.
See and hear what John Harmer, Chairman of The Lighted Candle Society, which has fought pornography for over 50 years, has to say about the Positive Mind Management Services Hypnotherapy protocols, new mental and spiritual skills and tools. These are here to Free people from pornography and pornographic influences.
He states that Dennis is the only therapist he has endorsed in his 50 years of involvement!
See and hear, why?
See and hear what a former Stake President, John Hollingshead, who has worked with Positive Mind Management Services for years to Free hundreds of people from pornography, anxieties, abuse desensitization, pain control, and marriage problems all being corrected with the new mental and spiritual skills and tools being offered in these online training's.
Dennis explains how and why these new mental and spiritual skills and tools work
in his talk given at the Firm Foundation - Book of Mormon Conference - this past April - 2018.
A Struggling 25 Year Old
One of the most significant blessings in my life has been to learn about and receive hypnotherapy. Outside of my religion, nothing in my life has been as satisfying, encouraging, enabling, or uplifting. I am a 25-year-old man who has struggled with depression, anger, and other effects of sexual abuse from another male. Some of these effects include impulses towards pornography, same-sex attraction, and self-abuse. My life was in serious straits when I was first introduced to Dennis.
When I was 23, I was on the verge of throwing my life away to sexual addictions. I am a religious man, and I have felt ashamed of my emotions and actions, and I didn’t understand why or how my life had turned into such a mess. I had struggled for years to overcome my feelings of resentment towards myself and the reality of my bad habits and my struggle with same-sex attraction, and I had gotten to the point where the burdens felt unendurable. I felt that for the most part, my therapists were unable to help me, that my family was let down, and that my religious leaders were shaming and condemning, and my God either uncaring or unhearing. It was at this point in my life that I actually decided to throw in the towel on living the life I wanted, (having a wife and family) to live a life of homosexuality, self-abuse and pornography, with no family, no church, and no God. As the old saying goes, “if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em!” My mother, ignorant of my plans, must have had a stroke of inspiration and somehow convinced me to go see Dennis. She wanted me to see what I thought of his mind-management classes which she had previously attended.
I will admit I was not overjoyed to visit Dennis the first time. This feeling was at first strengthened by the fact that Dennis does not believe in the traditional definitions of addiction. Dennis took away my excuses, with challenging and logical questions and explanations. He clearly explained how my repeated actions and behaviors developed from concepts that originated from my stimulus experiences. He taught me that whatever we have learned to do, we can challenge and change, that I could learn to do things in a new and different in a healthy way. He taught me that through choice and accountability in my thoughts, beliefs, and concepts, I can choose which thoughts I allow to formulate into emotions, which then transfer into my actions and behavior. He taught me that I am responsible for becoming response – able. I am now better able to respond to the generated thoughts that come from the stimuluses’ I receive. He believes the so-called “pornography addiction” is a consistent misuse of our agency, a string of inappropriate choices, giving way to impulses which were only spontaneously and ineffectually challenged and then left unchanged. He taught me new mental skills which are personally revitalizing and empowering. When I take the time to use these tools, I am able not only to have self-control, but I am also able to see my misconceptions for what they are, which then leads to understanding myself better. Dennis took away my ability to say “That’s just the way I am,” as well as all my other ways of saying “It’s time to give up,” because all my excuses were grounded in my misconceptions, and he helped me see them for what they were-falsehoods and fear.
I gradually began to see that my inappropriate choices were giving me new ways to grow and change my entire vision of life. I grew more comfortable expressing my feelings and struggles, and I found that happiness began to permeate my life in a way I had not experienced for years. Giving my emotions a name and a voice helped me see my emotions as something more concrete than abstract chemical processes in the brain. This concept helped me connect my emotions with the thoughts that were generating my emotional content in the first place. Hypnotherapy gave me a way to manage my inner voice that generated my emotions, as opposed to suffocating or trying to ignore my thoughts and feelings. I learned that my emotions do not define me, that my emotions are coming from my accepted thoughts, and are not me-that was a game-changer for me- I am not my emotions, and I have real control over them! I have the ability to change my mental template, and immediately dissolve old emotional content, thereby allowing for new emotions based on the new more truth-full thoughts. This knowledge has helped me to escape so much of the shame that I felt, and the anger and depression that I felt in such extremes have vanished almost completely.
I want to be clear though, hypnotherapy is not a magic pill that gets rid of all your problems. I still have to fight the battle of choice-whether or not I will accept inappropriate thoughts from time to time about pornography and same sex attraction-that battle is still mine to fight, but I now understand my power better. I still get angry, I still get confused and depressed sometimes when I am not managing my thoughts and actions well, but I know how to fight now. While I have received help from other therapists that I have been to over the years, I feel that I have gained most from hypnotherapy because it permeates the deepest part of myself-my inner voice and emotions. I don’t need to spend the rest of my life running and hiding from problems, or talking endlessly about them either. I don’t need to give in to my problems, be they past, present, or future, because, as I have learned through hypnotherapy, I have the ability to choose what I will become, and who I allow myself to be. I choose what voice I listen to, what decisions to live by, what actions I choose to allow. I can choose to live by truth, and that is what sets me free.
To close, I also want to note that hypnotherapy has blessed my spiritual life as well. I was led to Dennis when I felt most abandoned by God, and I intended to abandon Him. Ironically, hypnotherapy has expanded my view of Him, and drawn me closer to Him. I am better able to see the beautiful and fearsome powers and abilities that He has granted each one of us in our lives. I am learning that my spiritual life is more complete, more satisfying, more efficacious, and more beneficial to those around me when I take the time to use the gifts God has helped me find in hypnotherapy. I am a different man when I use these skills, and I am able to use some of the same procedures and ideas expressed in hypnotherapy to bless the lives of my family and friends when they face trials and difficulties of their own to better see things as they really are. I am now planning on going to graduate school in therapy, as well as becoming certified in hypnotherapy so that I can pass on the emboldening and inspiring tools that have forever changed me.
Comments from an LDS Missionary Elder currently serving in the mission field , who has had constant self-abuse issues for many years and was still experiencing the problem. We did some sessions over SKYPE. He is fully on track and has his temple recommend again:
Hello Brother Parker, the last couple weeks have been absolutely amazing, I have been doing very well and remain true to my covenants, in fact I get my recommend back tomorrow.
I have been transferred to a new area, I am now up in ____________, and it’s really beautiful here by the coast. There are a lot of people here and we have already been able to build up our teaching pool. The work is going very well, we have a baptism scheduled for the 28th, and the ward has been very supportive.
I am really appreciative of the help that I received from our sessions, your book, and CD. I have struggled with my issue for a long time and am now relived to have effective strategies to fight back against the temptations of the adversary. At first I wasn't so sure how hypnotherapy would help me but I quickly learned that this was going to help me a lot with what I was going through and will also help me with later issues in my life.
It took a few weeks to understand and practice the Mind Management techniques, but once I got the hang of things and understood how to handle the situation I was able to put aside and control my old habits. Honestly though, I feel so much better now because I have so much more control over who I am, and what I desire to be. I am much more confident and very pleased with my way of life. It has been an amazing blessing! I know I will continue to read over what I have been taught so it stays fresh in my mind.
I'll keep in touch,
A Young Married Man with a Wife and Children
For over ten years I had struggled with a deep addiction to pornography and masturbation. I tried everything to stop, but nothing seemed to work for me. I had gone to see so many therapists and counselors, but they were of no help what so ever. Although some of the strategies they gave me would provide me with temporary relief, it wouldn’t be long before I would relapse again. So after many years of trying to overcome this awful addiction and failing each time, I decided to just simply give up. I knew that relapse was inevitable so why waste so much time, energy, and money if all it’s going to do is set me up for failure? That saying, “once an addict, always an addict” really resonated with me. I believed that I was going to carry this addiction to the grave, or so I thought.
Then I met Dennis Parker, who for the first time ever gave me hope that I could change. But I’ll admit that at first I was very skeptical. I wasn’t sure that hypnosis would work for me. I had never heard of hypnosis as being method to treat addictions. I didn’t actually believe in it to be honest. I believed it was all superstition. The idea seemed so foreign and even mythical to me. I remembered all seeing movies of people undergoing hypnosis and how bizarre and scary it was. But I figured why not give it a try. I mean what do I have to lose? I have tried everything else.
My first appointment with Dennis went very well. He told me that if I apply his methods and teachings that I WILL never look at porn again, or even have the desire to. I thought it was too good to be true. I had been told this many times before. He told me to listen to the CD every night before I go to bed. So I did that. I listened to the CD for the first time and it was AMAZING. After one time of listening to it, I was already noticing a huge difference. My confidence and desire to change grew significantly. I’ve now been listening to it every night for the last three months and I don’t know what I would do without it. The CD and Dennis’s teachings have helped me more than all of the therapists and other programs combined! My friends and family have noticed a big change in me. They have told me that I seem a lot happier; I’m smiling more; I’m not as negative about things. I know a lot of this is because of the CD. I’m not exactly sure how it works, but it does! It may seem a little awkward at first, but just do it and trust me you will see great results immediately.
I’m now on my way to becoming completely free of this addiction, which I don’t see as an addiction anymore, and that is something that Dennis has taught me. He told me that it’s just a result of “stinking thinking” that I have developed over the years. Knowing this has really made all the difference. I hope that more people can utilize Dennis’s teachings.
Sutton Clinical Services
First of all, I want you to know that I was a huge skeptic before I saw your work. I was relating hypnotherapy too much to what you see in the stage shows. At our office we provide counseling to children, adolescents, and adults, most of whom have suffered great traumas in their lives. In many cases, the mental health therapies we were using were not helping them overcome their trauma symptoms as quickly as we would like. When you offered to come to our office once a week, although I didn’t have high expectations, I agreed.
I was so surprised at the rapid and amazing results I saw on that first day. My husband had struggled with guilt and extreme sadness due to the death of his son eight years earlier. This was the first thing he chose to work on. In less than a half-hour his sadness was replaced with a sense of peace and acceptance. The guilt was gone and he was able to think of his son without reliving the trauma of his death. This is just one example, but there are many others just as dramatic.
Thank you Dennis, for opening my eyes to a very useful and effective treatment approach. I have changed from a skeptic to a believer and am delighted with the results I have seen with the clients that you worked with as well as the ones that I am now, working with using hypnotherapy. I appreciate your hypnotherapy school and the in-depth training that you give.
Patricia Sutton, CMHC Sutton Clinical Services
A Concerned Mothers Journey Through Mind Management and Hypnotherapy with her son
My son came to me sobbing intensely, after being in therapy weekly for about a year, he proceeded to tell me that pornography was ruining his life, it was taking over his life. He was suicidal and so terribly unhappy. I talked to his therapist and he felt he needed something more powerful. I told him, “I’d do anything for my son what do I need to do.” This is when we went to see Dennis Parker.
My son and I were both very skeptical and didn’t really understand what hypnotherapy meant. Dennis soon taught us about mind management. This is it! Mind management is what he needs. I needed to learn more about mind management too. Everything that comes up in life we get to choose how to handle it. Yes, we might have an addiction, but we have to stop and Be Present when making a choice and then really concentrate on consciously making the right choice for ourselves. After my experience with Dennis Parker a big chunk of what hypnotherapy now means to me is mind management and dealing with things that have happened in the past. We must learn from these experiences and then focus on moving forward.
The first thing that my son and I learned is that he and I are Normal. The thoughts, feelings, worries, anxieties, or depression, and so on that, He or I might experience are what others experience also, at one point or another in our lives. What is not normal is allowing these thoughts, feelings, worries, anxieties, or depression, and so on to start taking over our lives so that we are unable to live our lives and be happy. The second thing I learned was about how we talk to ourselves, because consciously when we talk to ourselves we don’t know it but it subconsciously is burned into our habits. We need to always talk nice to ourselves. Third, I learned how wonderful affirmations are. Write down what you want and then change it to what you already are, for example: I want to be happy. –Changes to- I am happy. Make an affirmations list and read it five times in a row and do this four or five times a day, to reprogram your brain. You will instantly feel like a weight has been lifted. This list is always changing according to your needs.
There is so much more that I learned, but these are my top three. Another experience that we had with Dennis that really opened my eyes was when my son during a hypnotherapy session discovered why he had felt so emotionally needy. My son's dad and I were divorced when he was four. The thoughts I had during this time were what is wrong with me?, Why am I not good enough, pretty enough?, Why am I not loveable?, Why did he leave me?, It is my fault., and so on. Every possible negative, destructive feeling and thought I could have, I did have. I was thirty-six years old at the time. What I didn’t realize was that, I was processing all of this pain at the age of 36, but he was trying to process the same pain and thoughts at the age of 4. He had all the same insecurities and destructive thoughts in his sweet little four year old person, and had still been living with them all these years. This realization was excruciatingly painful, no matter what an amazing mom I tried to be and how much love he got from me he still needed to heal.
This experience from when he was little has influenced his thinking about himself in destructive ways. He had so much anxiety about never being loved by a girlfriend, and never being married, or having children, that he turned to video games and pornography which in turn made him more depressed, and suicidal. His negative, obsessive thoughts just took over and he was on a continuous spiral downward. Now that he has been able to acknowledge these feelings he can let responsibility lie where it needs to and he can move forward and take responsibility for what lies ahead.
Today my son has a girlfriend, who loves him, and he loves her. She accepts him for who he is. I don’t know if this is the girl that he will choose to be with for the rest of his life, but he knows that he will be ok. At times he still struggles with things, as he climbs the ladder of life he takes step back once in a while, but the most amazing thing is that he is making progress even if it is just a little progress at a time. He is DOING not just Trying! He will have to work hard and be mindful, and present everyday of his life, but know he has hope. I will always be indebted to Dennis and forever grateful for helping my son get his life back.
Cade - A returned missionary who learned Positive Mind Management skills and tools before he left.
He talks about Mind Management helped him overall to be emotionally strong while on his mission.
To Whom It May Concern:
Our clinic, Solace Emotional Health, provides mental health therapy for sexual addiction, marital quality, and ancillary symptoms of depression, anxiety, and trauma. Our therapeutic approach with these issues consists of 2 layers: (1) helping the patient develop critical skills to manage emotional surges (rather than being managed by them); and (2) to address the emotional and cognitive undercurrents that often undergird dysfunctional and unwanted behaviors. However, if a troubling or traumatic experience has been repressed, forgotten, or imbedded deeply into a patient’s subconscious, it can be difficult and very time consuming to identify and dissolve the dilemma.
We have found that Dennis Parker’s hypnotherapy, combined with his unique “Spiritual Mind Management” program, quickly identifies unconscious emotional undercurrents, skillfully desensitizes them, and adds an extra layer of emotional management, that provides confidence and permanence to patient’s recovery efforts.
Recently, Dennis worked with one of our patients that had been diligent in daily recovery efforts for several months, but had not been able to sustain his sexual addiction sobriety for longer than a week. In just 2 sessions of hypnotherapy, Dennis helped this patient identify a deeply buried issue, desensitized it, and instructed the patient how to better manage unwanted thoughts, memories, and emotions. To date, this patient has not had a relapse.
Another acquaintance stopped by our clinic, suffering with night terrors and unbearable cravings to relapse (after almost 2 years of sobriety). She had been given the financial approval for 8 sessions at another agency. She agreed to meet with Dennis Parker for a session or two, in an attempt to identify a specific issue to work on, thereby accelerating the effectiveness of her pre-approved therapy program. She had one session with Dennis Parker. In a follow-up phone call, she said, “the nightmares and craving are gone. They haven’t returned. At this point, I don’t think I will need any more therapy.”
Dennis Parker is skillful, effective, and extremely efficient in his hypnotherapy and “Spiritual Mind-Management” approach.
Dr. Jerry Redd, Ph.D., CMHC
Solace Emotional Health